Why did Rama abandon Sita in the forest? (The Secret!)

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    Why didn’t Lord Rama take Sita into confidence why he was compelled to leave her in the ashram during her pregnancy? That would have saved her from a lot of agony.

  2. Janvi says:

    What bullshit. The debate is not only about ram and sita, ofcourse there were more mysterious reasons behind sita’s exile. But not only as a husband, ram did injustice with a women as a king itself. He exiled a pure women just because of rumors and set a wrong example in the name of justice, sita’s agni pariksha itself was a wrong example. Everyone blamed a women for being kidnapped and ram as a king handled it like that?? I don’t think even ram would agree with himself. As a hindu, everyone is free to criticize ram for what he did wrong, these there lilas itself teach us that no one born in this world are immune to mistakes and they would have to face its results. This was not the only time ram did wrong, so rather than trying to proof wrong as right and setting wrong examples, we should accept good as well as Bad character of ram and learn from his mistakes.

    Ex: for killing bali in adharmic way, ram in his next rincarnation as krishna got killed by bali in the same way.

    • Parikshit Jaiswal says:

      Lord Ram killed Bali adharmic way because he had a boon.If the lord wanted to kill him in dharmic way also,the lord would have still killed him but just to protect the boon given to Bali by Demigods,lord Ram killed Bali in adharmic way.Krishna got killed by by bali in the same way shows that Law of Karma is a real thing.We should learn from it , so that we perform good karmas as well.


    Lord Shirdi Sai Baba and Lord Sathya Sai Baba knew in their wisdom they are not living in a time to be wedded to Laxmi. Same reason, through knowing the will of the people, Lord Rama knew his inevitable destiny for him to be separated from Mata Sita, so Udayji sense the right choice would be to go to Ashram, which represent the praja or if the creation descends into materialism which is what people wanted, the ashram helps to keep all as much divine for some time. Even politicians make choices as to the will of the people, this determines the destined outcome.

  4. VandeMataram says:

    I am amazed how people have rejected using their intellect and mob mentality of belief has taken over your lives. As per my understanding, Rama is NOT GOD but he is GODLY. A human who elevates himself over his contemporaries and serves selflessly is revered in the society and ultimately is elevated to the level of God by commoners. History is undeniable proof of this across many religions and beliefs (e.g, Jesus, Buddha, Sai Baba etc).

    In the life of a human, there will always be stages where one has to choose between two Dharmas (righteous things). By following one, you will de-prioritize another. For e.g., Price Siddhartha left his wife and child in pursuit of knowledge and became Buddha.

    In case of Rama abandoning Sita, a similar situation appeared where Rama had to choose between two Dharmas – one of the King and the other of a husband and a would-be father.

    I request people to think and discuss these points. 1) According to Vedic Dharma, a husband takes vows during marriage that he will not leave his wife’s company when following Dharma, Artha and/or Kama. By abandoning Sita for the sake of clean image, Rama basically broke his marriage vow. He chose to prioritize his Dharma as a King over his Dharma as a husband/father.

    2) Rama was the favorite prince and was in line to become to the King after Dasaratha. It was his kshatryia dharma to serve people by becoming their king. However, due to Dasaratha’s promise to Kaikeyi, Rama chose to priorize his Dharma as a son over his Dharma as a price/future king and he left to the forest.

    This is where it is contradicting. At one point, Rama chose to prioritize kshatryia dharma (when abandoning Sita) and at another juncture he de-prioritized the same (for Dasaratha). The explanation for this is simple. The prestige of the clan (kula or vamsa) was always the top priority amongst kings. Rama went to the forest to maintain his family honor as a failed promise by Dasaratha would be a dirty mark on their clan histoy. Similarly, he sent pregnant Sita to the forest to maintain the clean image of his clan. This is a common and deep rooted concept seen in India even today where lovers are killed on the name of family honor.


      it is not like that, Lord ram knew his inevitable destiny to separate from Mata Sita as he already had experienced this, he knew just as a politician knows today through the will of the people what decision he has to make, otherwise choices are not real. the paraja wanted material benefits etc… this means the Lord and Consort separates, she goes into creation so that others get to live a grihasta life like it was not possible for Lord Shiva and Mata Parvati to live a life in Lanka. Lord Rama through his wisdom just as Shirdi Sai Baba and Sathya Sai Baba knew in the kali age it is not their time to be wedded yet to Laxmi. So makes sense Lord Rama chose ashram for Mata Sita instead of quarrelling and breaking up. its the same reason Prithviraj Chouhan faced few break up with sanyogita in the 12th century, their break up symbolises the western world would happen and its evident in the thoughts of people,thats why we vote.

  5. Ashwin Vijay says:

    First of all, Ramayana or any other epics of any religion for that matter, isn’t history, or something which actually happened, until it’s proven so.
    Now, with all due respect sir, there are a lot of other controversies too, about Rama’s moral and ethical conduct. There is no doubt that he was portrayed as an ideal person in many aspects, on the other hand, having a darker side too.
    Some instances are:
    1. Rama executing (by beheading) Shambuka, for casteist problems.
    2. He used unethical ways to kill Vali, Sugreeva’s brother for his own needs and wants.
    3. Killing the golden deer (Mareecha) dead or alive, even after Lakshman advising it being a possibility of foul play.

    These 3 for now. I request you to clear the misunderstandings please.


      regards history, of course they happen, the evidence is every where, look in the world to see, relationships, peoples will areall the same, the world story is based on what happen in Hinduism epics, the Mahabharat is a story that divided us into 3 east, middle and west, the third world of those time was based on the life of Karna, now the east was once third world now developing world.


    Matha sita deviyai kattirku anupiyathu raman illai. Mata sitha devi avar puguntha veedana ragu kulathirku kalangam varamal irukavum Raman mithu ithigasam thavaraga pesakudathu yendrum thamagave vanam senrargal. Raman kaigalil ulla annaithu viralum onru pol ilai yendru kurinar Sithaiyidam. Nattil ulla makkal annaivarum onru pol illai. avathuru pesuvathai ne mara yenru kurinar. Yennai vitu piriyathe yendru kurinar.Irupinum Matha sita devi ragu kulathin pugalai kakka vanam senrargal.Raman than katiruku anupinar yenru solli sitavin thiyagathai arthammatrathu pol seithuvidathirgal. Avar Tharmathayum niyathayum tham uyirinum melaga karuthiyavar Avar pugal valga punithathuvathi smata sita deviku nigar yarum ilai ithu raman karuthu. Matha sita devi pugal valga. Ramayanam Manithanin valkaiku valigati. Vithiyin mun anaivarum verum pathumaigale athai ramayanam unarthugirathu. Nadappathu annaithum ilavan seyal.Nal valiyil sella ramayanam avasiyam.

  7. amit says:

    Absolute gem of an explanation Uday ji. Thanks a lot for such a wonderful answer. Jai shri ram. I always knew that there must be some reason for my Ram ji to decide to leave Sita mata which our so called wisdom is not able to decipher. But today I feel blessed to know the answer. Jai siyaram.

  8. Rajesh says:

    This is told by my Guru Paramahamsa Nithyananda read from Akashic reading. There are many happening of Ramayana itself.Reason for One of the this hapening goes like this :As spiritually evolved being, both Lord Ram and Sita ma have already decided to go beyond their bodies. So when an external worldly happening occurred, they used it wisely

  9. sanjeev says:

    Great explanation sir…was very happy to see information like this…please could i copy paste this article…for my circulation in whatsapp groups…

  10. sanjeev says:

    Great explanation sir…was very happy to see information like this…please could i copy paste this article…for my whatsapp groups…

  11. Alakh Divan says:

    It is irrelevant if Sita was hurt.
    In the larger context, an incarnation ought to set examples that posterity can follow.
    Thus agni pariksha could have been banished in place of Sita.
    What if people follow the example and subject their wife to this test?

  12. Prasad s Shetty says:

    Udayji…wht a wndfl description of maryada purshottam Shri Rama…truely vry nice 2 read this blog….Awys Jai Shri Ram

  13. Balu says:

    Uday ji, wonderful article. However, does it still not show that the people of Ayodhya were unkind or even cruel? I have never felt that Ram did the wrong thing (he was after all trying to act per the will of his people yet be as true to Sita as possible). But I have a hard time empathizing with the people of Ayodhya. Hence was it truly Rama Rajya? IMO, Rama Rajya is not just Rama being an ideal king but the people also being ideal (which I believe was not the case).

  14. Madan says:

    Jai Sri Ram….thank you for the article..this is the real seva of God..

  15. P Subba Rao says:

    What an inteletual analysis. I started seeing Ramayana differently

  16. Jagadish S Indi says:

    Uday Anna,

    You made me to cry, thanks for that.

  17. Pallavi says:

    Every pregnant woman feels some desires/ wantings from around 4th month when feotal heart starts expressing / perceiving all sensory subjects. Eeta also felt the same wantings to go and reside in a Ashrama. So being a loving / resposbile husband did the same. These desires of pregnant woman are called Dauhrida in Ayurveda. If not completed/fulfilled this will definitely hampers the growth of baby in any ways. Physical/ mental/ sensual..total personality.. These impairments are called Dauhrida Apamana Janya Vyadhi in Ayurveda. Thank u Sir

    • Paraj Kalita says:

      Sita expressed her desire to VISIT an ashrom. Raam placed her in the ashrom for an indefinite time,and that, too,without talking with her about it.
      And no question of proper action regarding Raama. He, with his brother told lies to Surpanakhaa, and mutilated Ayomukhi’s nose without any clear reason.

    • Paraj kalita says:

      Seeta desired to visit an ashrom. And Raama placed her there for her whole life.

  18. Gowthami G K says:

    Gosh!!! all these years i had the same question, and me being a classical dancer had an obsession towards RAMA…..
    But after reading the article i am ashamed of myself for not knowing the truth…..Uday Sir, thanks a ton for the article and the best part is the way u explain everything…Keep guiding us with your articles….Thank You once again.

  19. Paromita says:

    Hello Sir,
    As a woman I often thought about this idea of RAma letting Sita go to forest . Obviously from your article I understand now what was actually going on in their minds to take such steps. I still have one more predicament about the later situation when Sita had to prove herself again . I feel from what I have read and seen that she was hurt at that point and couldn’t take the injustice anymore. Are we right to think that she was wronged then?

  20. SP says:

    Great article Uday Sir. The article cleared my doubts too.

  21. Dear Udaylal,
    Dhanya Ho! You are truly a blessed soul. I have read and heard many treatise on Ramayan. Never did I come across so clear an inspirational, well explained, with correct reasoning as yours. You are Valmiki of modern times. Lord truly exists.. in you and me. Kudos.! Love to read your article. Never missed any.. and always wait and check on your website of read more awe and inspirational reads. God bless.

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