A Depressed Girl and the Butterfly Effect!

I met Rajani (not real name) during a wedding ceremony. She said she was a regular reader of my website. We talked for some time.

She is doing her post-research (after her PhD). Her husband is a highly placed medical doctor. He is having an affair with another woman (his fellow-worker). He drinks heavily. And whenever possible he harasses Rajani talking about her past love affair. She is not getting support from her parents too. Her male-chauvinistic brother had cheated on her for acquiring the family property.

“I would want to go for a job to avoid the mental torture that I am going through. But that would be an end to my research. So many years of hard work would go waste. Udayji, I am in a confused state of mind…”

The helplessness, no-hope situation, stress, frustration, etc have really put her down. She is on some medication for depression. She has insomnia and some physical ailments like body pain too. “I am feeling very lonely. My life is wasted and worthless. Sometimes I get thoughts about committing suicide. I am really scared about such thoughts too.” She appeared timid and tense.

“Do you know about the butterfly effect?” I asked her.


“It has been said that something as small as the flutter of a butterfly’s wings can ultimately cause a typhoon halfway around the world. A butterfly flapping its wings in one part of the world might eventually cause a hurricane in another part of the world. E.g., a butterfly flapping its wings in the Amazon jungle might create a Tsunami in Indonesia”

“Oh, really?”

“Yeah, the concept that states that ‘small causes can have larger effects’. The Cosmos is so delicate that even a minute change would upset its balance… Okay, tell me, how many cells are there in a human body?”

Rajani‘s eyes suddenly lighten up. It was her subject of study. She said: “At maturity, the estimated number of cells in the body is given as 37.2 trillion. Some calculations say that for an adult man weighing 70 kilograms has 70 trillion cells.”

(Excerpt from my book “MIND YOUR MIND: Turn Frustration into Fascination”
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B092ZQ5QJ6 )

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7 Responses

  1. SAtish says:


  2. vijayalakshmi raghavan says:

    Awesome and so scientific and logical. i would like to share it to my children in the US who demand logic and science for proof.
    with warm regards,
    vijayalakshmi raghavan

  3. B S Ravindranath says:

    Shri Udaylal I don’t how we connect each other but we connect, your writing charge me because I think the same way the way you write my friends say to write but I told I can’t, but I realize it is right because it calls for lot of knowledge to express what we know and I am blessed and proud to be born in this land of sanatana dharma, I really thank you I thank the thanks for helping me to thank you.

  4. M.NageshKini says:

    I agree with you fully. Every thing in life does not works according to our wishes and beliefs.Whatever comes across our life journey will have to face. If we gracefully accept the situation, it helps us to face it with little sufferings.

  5. anna says:

    I love what you say here.
    How do I find what my karma is?
    I find that I can connect well with people and online I help them with troubled lives when they are depressed. I do not listen to what I say to myself….but my words have helped others. I attribute this to God using me to write to them while they are in suicidal distress. When I help another I feel better. Yet,.. I also need to have a way to make money. I am not a counselor and do not want to charge for this. I have always felt to write something…something that will touch a few people…and those few can pass it on to more. But I am not educated enough to write well. Nor can I figure out exactly where to begin writing. I do love to paint. ..that is for enjoyment and pleasure. I also like to make jewelry and greeting cards. that is also for enjoyment and for gifts.

    so..how do I make a difference and also find a way to make some money?
    how do I find my purpose and karma?

    • samar says:

      i too think of all these how to do the best and make a living.. but later on wen i researched a lot.. got to know at the end of the day is that it is very simple if we try to learn to let go of things.. we always stuck in choosing the best of what we have and fear to lose the other things we have.. if u really like writing or painting or helping others then just choose one of that and continue doing… but it doesnot mean that u should or should not take it to b a profession.. u can do a job to earn money. and side by. side continue ur hobby.. make a blog. make a fb page.. u can try freelance too…or if u like helping people physically then y dont u volunteer or work for ngo… my wish is with u.. good luck

  6. Avadhoot Dandekar says:

    Just great and superb !!

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