Story of a Mother’s Curse !
Recently, I have visited a friend’s father in a old age home. There I met a lady, around 74 years old, who reminded me of my mother. So I introduced myself. We talked for few minutes.
Then, without any provocation, she started cursing her son and daughter.
“Uday, you have come to see your friend’s father. But my children, those %@#%$, never cared for me. They ditched me here like an ugly decayed old dog…”she was cursing and shouting so loud. And the body of the words she used would create envy in even among parliamentarians in India. I have never ever heard such gutter adjectives that she used to address her son and daughter – horrible! I could imagine her pain, anger, hatred and alienation. I understood that her son is an engineer and daughter is a medical doctor. They have never come to see her. And she is living on her pension.
“Please don’t curse your children, mother…” I said.
“Both of them are living in huge bungalows with children and servants. They spent lot of money on poojas and rituals too….But they can’t spend a minute or a paisa for me “she continued cursing them…
Apparently, she is disillusioned, depressed, frustrated and carrying lot of negative emotions. A tragic situation, indeed. But we need to evaluate facts of our life. Barring the emotional outburst, we fail to see some basic factors that point to bitter truth in life.
“May I ask you a few questions, mother?”
“Yes…”
“You have given birth to your children with part of your own body. You have nurtured them well. You have provided them with nutritious food and nourished them…”
“Yes…yes…most of the times, I was starving to feed them…Since my husband was not earning well, we were living on my petty salary then…”
“You took care of their body so now they have a good and healthy body…”
“Yes – but my curse will finish off their health, their body will decay…” she scolded.
“Now, my question is, you took care of the body, but what about their mind? What did you do for their mind? Did you teach them any value based knowledge? Did you teach them your traditions, customs, rituals, culture and its significance? Did you read them our puranas and itihas? Did you tell them about their Dharma?”
“Who had time for that? I was busy to make both ends meet…I was starving, but I wanted to see them as an engineer or doctor…I wanted to see the society respects my children.”
“So, your wishes are fulfilled, then what are you complaining about?”
She looked at me with a blank face.
“You taught your daughter MBBS – she became doctor. You send your son to study BTech and he became engineer. Those are very good positions in your society…You should be happy…
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Mr. Uday, l think it is a cooked up story. You are a devil’s incarnate to cook up such a story about a mother. I hope you have not treated your mother the same way.
Hearttouch example it’s very grateful story
All Time we blame chilldren
Hearttouch example it’s very grateful story
All Time we blame children but
All Time fact is not same
Goood uday……
Mr. Udaypaiji…
You are really awesome person… Superb… Superb… Really I am speechless…. Hats off to you..
Life can really be simple and sweet if V all fellow simple rules which God Almighty has given us…
I am speechless.
Thanks
Joe
Just awesome… I feel proud about my parents who raised us with all best examples from our own dignified culture and introduced us to Good and Bad with acceptable theories of examples. One has to introspect when they want to make any statement which they don’t deserve. Awesome experience after a long time.
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Great eye opener
I understand the limitations that you may want the old parents to be taken care well with assistance from old age homes..
It is also the responsibility of the children to think what is right and what is wrong. Its really not impossible, to go and visit parents once a while, gift them few fruits, nuts where ever you are.
I think its not possible to do what is done but to do more is, something children can always do.. They have their own thinking and knowledge. I some how felt the way mother was convinced here was wrong. Instead, children should be educated about supporting parents when they are aged and support emotionally.
Inspite of teaching these things, in todays world children are unable to take care of old parents. But convincing a old parent that you are getting back what you did is not right
You are doing yeomen service.
excellent, many dimensions to understand a single situation.
I think you must have done the same thing to your mother. So you are trying to justify yourself. There are orphans who learn the values of life by themselves. The schools have separate classes for moral science which teaches the importance of dharma and the duty which the children have towards their parents. The children need not be taught that their parents struggle for them. If they do not understand the struggles which their parents put in for them, they are unfit to be called human beings. Only people who are slaves to their marriage and wife would do this to their mother who struggled for them. Please do not justify such acts. Would you apply the same principle to your mother in law?
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I am completely impressed with the narration of story , mother’s curse ,
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You have really argued positively .I always tell my wife about our duty towards our children .And out of the well performed duty you get the reward or other wise .
Different view point altogether
Tears rolled out my eyes after reading this heart touching real life incident. This is an eyeopener to many mothers who nowadays are more inclined to bring up their children to be materially successful but with no moral values. Its the duty of every mother,father,whosoever responsible for the upbringing of the child to instil some morals so that they become a worthy individual in future…….
Really this was an eye opener …
Quite an insightful article. Made me introspect. Keep it up