Bye-bye Positive Thinking


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16 Responses

  1. Samyuktha KS says:

    Extraordinary article, Sir! The allegory of ice, water, vapor is simply mind blowing. I believe after reading your article, I am already in awareness and know to be happy in the moment. Million thanks to you Sir! ????

  2. Natalie says:

    I agree with this I can see where he’s coming from but we do need a healthy balanced mind to achieve anything in life and if you have been depressed by your upbringing or social surrounding renewing the mind with a better way of thinking will change everything but it will take time it will be like a purpose driven road trip that would hopefully eventually balance it’s self out. I do agree that positive thinking used by government ect is a blanket of deception to self but is probably self preserving in economic depression and so on 🙂 x

  3. Pannag Kamat says:

    Thanks for your great article. will help me a lot.

  4. Anu says:

    Dear Udayji

    Each and every blog post of yours has answered various questions constantly surrounding my thoughts.
    It is always a pleasure to read your insights.
    Since we were talking about Karma. I would like to know your thoughts on fields like astrology esp. Naadi Shastra.
    I happened to get a Naadi Reading done just out of curiosity but now I am more intrigued than amused. It got all facts about my life with utmost accuracy without me giving any kind of factual information.

    Since you are such a well-read man. I would love to hear from you on this topic

    Thanks & Regards,


  5. hastimalbarola says:

    dear udai ji,

    thanks for such a nice article on positive thinking. I have read much on positive thinking but not so far such clear concept on thought process. can you please advice me some methods to overcome inferiority complex or some other articles to over come this complex.

    with regards

  6. Budhiswatya says:

    Dear Sir
    I agree that it is quiet a different perspective that you have put forward and appreciate the way you have enlightened us accompanied with various examples and truly logical thinking is what you have emphasised and how we should enjoy the journey of reaching towards our goal or wants but yet I personally still abide by positive thinking but the focus of logical thinking won’t get lost in the process.

  7. E. A. Mukunda Pai says:

    Nicely explained in practical and realistic way. Positive thinking with negative care”

  8. Sakthivel says:

    nice post sir, soothing for me .. feel relaxed

  9. Prashanth says:

    Good thoughts Bhavaji… I will try to come here more often…

  10. Mayank says:

    Great blog uday sir!I just loved the line
    We are all well-educated, knowledgeable and informed donkeys moving ahead with the hope that one day – one fine day we can eat that sweet carrot-happiness – that dangles in front of us at a future time.

  11. Dear Uday,
    These are simple facts of life and teachings of various Hindu literature.However the presentation is absolutely superb.


    Vishnu Prasad
    Aug 20, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    Uday Sir, Hats off! Though you said you are not spiritual, reading you is a real spiritual experience. Though you challenge the concept of gurus, you are an extra-ordinary teacher.
    I have read many spiritual gurus interpreted the Gita slok “Karmanye vadi Karaste maa faleshu kadachana”. I never expected that it can be so easily applicable to ordinary man in daily life. I considered it just as god’s words or great philosophy. It is so easy to use in the life.
    As the most of the seekers commented in all your other blogs, we don’t have to read any other tough sacred texts if we read your articles.
    May god bless you for continuing your karma for a long period to come….thank you so much.

    Sekhar Ray
    Aug 20, 2012 at 01:26 pm

    The blog is:
    1)A reminder of”Karmanye vadhikaraste ma phaleshu kadachna”
    2)An excellant allegory….ICE, WATER & VAPOUR
    3)Enjoy the journey towards goal.

    Anu Singh
    Aug 20, 2012 at 01:47 pm

    .gud blog dr. pai. duality of mind is always in play, only with self awareness one can become a witness, when the observed becomes the observer…thanks and regards

    Anil Kumar
    Aug 20, 2012 at 02:55 pm

    Wonderful post
    there is no positive thinking
    there is only negative thinking
    we should see our negativiyy
    bbut never try to be positive as it is also a negativity

    Tincy Mathew
    Aug 20, 2012 at 03:04 pm

    I love the way you present tough topics in life. All your blogs have long-time shelf value. I can read like a book. When I finished reading this lengthy blog, it made me feel so realistic. I had read the book “power of positive thinking”. Now I realise that the positive thinking is fake. I heard many people say “think positive” without a pinch of honesty in it. You are very honest in writing and thinking.
    Over-doze Hinduism? LoL However, I feel that all your blogs have a biased tendency towards Hinduism. Though you say that you are not conditioned with concepts, you give more weight-age to Hindu concepts. But that is no big deal given the benefits human beings get by reading your blogs.

    Lata Jagdeesh
    Aug 20, 2012 at 04:21 pm

    Such a brilliant, post exuding tremendous wisdom, Uday ji.There is so much one can learn from ur post and attempt to make our lives more meaningful. Some of the following sentences, from among many, are truly inspiring,-
    1)Being happy is more important because it is your energy which has to match that of your source, your higher or greater self, the God-given flow of energy, or whatever you prefer to call it…”
    2)When a room (mind) is filled with noises (thoughts – both positive and negative), you can’t hear the melodious music.
    3)”There is a proverb – hope for the best, prepare for the worst, and expect something in between! Nothing more.”
    4)”The goal may be a set target. But we should derive pleasure and happiness while working towards the goal. Our passion, dedication or determination should be focused on the work, not on the result. We should enjoy every moment of that work….That would make you extremely happy…”
    Thk for a beautiful post sharing wisdom!

    Swati Arora
    Aug 20, 2012 at 04:24 pm

    U r a very good writer I must say….the way you hold on your readers is …. “Amazing”.
    My take from this blog of urs is –
    1.”Just observe your thoughts and beware of them but do not classify them.”
    2.”Mann ki ho jaye to acha na ho toh aur bhi acha.”
    3.”Be happy in whatever situation you are.”

    Tony Joseph
    Aug 20, 2012 at 05:01 pm

    Thank you for very good article sir. You are an educator with divine grace. You see everything differently and share with readers like us. This availability is what I call divine.

    Anima Jain
    Aug 20, 2012 at 09:08 pm

    Intresting Conversation Udaylalji…There is no magic formula for being happy .. We just can’t take happiness by itself any more than we can take sadness. That’s why living is more important than happiness. I guess the best thing is to try & make the best of everything that life offers, even hardships. And as you say in a positive way…Begin observing your thoughts right NOW…..

    Dr Gurdev Singh
    Aug 20, 2012 at 09:38 pm

    Nice reflections. Positive Thinking, positive attitude, positivity in action and Euphoric state are different. Those can combine with realism and logicto different extent at different times and in different mind-states. Real test indeed lies in being honest, truthful to your own-self while being bold, courageous and goal-oriented even while being in touch with the ground realities.

    Rajeshwari Sopan
    Aug 20, 2012 at 10:24 pm

    Everyone have their share of sorrows ……Whatever the situation we are in, we should learn to accept it, …….I feel this is a positive nature…..thanx for the wonderful sharing……

    Mann Belani
    Aug 20, 2012 at 11:14 pm

    Happy mood produces happy hormones in the body. The more positive you are you generate a good vibration around. The happiness and positivity quotient of one determines his state of health.
    I dedicate a poem of mine to you.

    Sahana Madhyastha
    Aug 21, 2012 at 09:57 am

    I have also felt that positive thinking/ wishful thinking has only a transient effect on reducing psychological symptoms. Rather, it has more of a suppresive effect.
    Psychologists practice more of a rational or realistic appraisal of maladaptive thoughts in therapy. Most people benefit (to varying extent)from this in dealing with their symptoms.
    But of course if one’s destiny is to self-realise even tharka or rational thinking has to be discarded
    All things should be advised based on the receptive level of the reciever.
    Uday, with another 15 posts like this, you can come up with a book in various languages for the ones who are not computer savy.
    I am sure you would have been a great sage in one of your previous births.
    Please continue the good work.

    Sreeram Manoj Kumar
    Aug 21, 2012 at 10:17 am

    B E A U T Y —— E X C E L L E N T —— Uday sir thank you for sharing such knowledge 🙂

    Neeru Malhotra
    Aug 21, 2012 at 10:42 am

    Great indeed sir
    U r a wonderful writer…. though generally i get discouraged to read lengthy blogs… urs i read without a blink…. they are always written magnificently. What i believe is dreaming or positive thinking with passion and hard work brings result..
    Regards and a salute to u.

    Rameshwari Thakur
    Aug 21, 2012 at 11:19 am

    Wonderful blog, Uday. Great thoughts & with lots of sense.
    Thanks for sharing!!

    Tej Tiwary
    Aug 21, 2012 at 04:32 pm

    Another gem of the blogs, Uday Ji.

    Nagaraja Mandalgeri
    Aug 22, 2012 at 06:15 am

    There are many self styled ‘gurus’, for both good and bad things-there is a training centr for pick-the-pocket, terrorism, dacoity, robbing, theft etc They run parallel to camps of satsang, prayer, meditation, bhajans etc For the first group the rest are negative thinkers.

    Changeman Citizen Mitter Vedu
    Aug 22, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    Very illustrative!Bravo! Live fully in the present, love your Karma,and do your best,enjoy!

    Surinder Raina
    Aug 22, 2012 at 04:51 pm

    Once again an eye opener.
    Right feed in right direction.
    We need lot of such feed to counter several beliefs in our society.
    Only fortunate one’s can meet Godly people.
    I wish I meet you once physically for a small chat.

    Niti Lora
    Aug 22, 2012 at 05:55 pm

    ‘There is a real you. And there is a manifested you. The real you is cosmic creation. The manifested you is the creation of the conditioned-mind. And you are identified only with the manifested you. So, try to be centred in the real you and observe the doings of manifested you. Don’t resist any thoughts. Don’t ever classify thoughts into positive or negative.’ – Well, may be true. But feel that they are just high sounding words.
    I am not in favour of mass marketing of ‘positive thinking’ under different labels. It is manufactured and marketed in bulk from US more to suit network marketing. But having said that, I do consider that there are positive and negative thoughts and being ‘inert’ towards them without any classification is not a good idea either. Look at a stone in a slope. It is its natural tendency to drift and roll down. You don’t have to give any input or energy. But to keep it in position or to lift it upward, energy is needed. It is my experience that if done nothing positive, human nature is to drift down. So in witnessing the thoughts, in meditation, a deliberate gentle attempt is to be made to invite more of positive thought for one to rise for ordinary mortals. It is not wishful thinking but rather blissful thinking…….:-)

    Ramesh Shenoy
    Aug 23, 2012 at 09:24 am

    Sir – as usual – another superior blog!!! I cannot say which blog is your master piece. All blogs are excellent master crafted.
    I know one person. He regularly attended those personality boosting stage performance. he has invested in a MLM chain. The layer-1 few guys made lot of money and all the followers lost huge amount. The case is under investigation now by police dept.
    Positive Thinking push is a complete fraud. As you said it will boost one’s ego. And that man will walk and talk like a plastic robot. At the end, it will burst.
    Realistic thinking, handwork, dedication and surrendering to GOD – this is the only secret of success. Thank you so much for sharing sir.
    All your blogs are novel experience for a reader. It opens up new dimension. It shows new perspective.

    Sumita Kataria
    Aug 23, 2012 at 11:41 am

    Wonderful blog Sir
    thanks for sharing
    you live your life truly when you live it with total awareness and balanced attitude.
    Ishwar Hamesha Saath Hai

    Mahavir Nautiyal
    Aug 23, 2012 at 01:09 pm

    Dear Dr Udaylal ,
    I like the way you lucidly explain your point of view through dialectical method ( in the tradition of Socrates and Hegel, the German philosopher ) . Underlying your views is the timeless wisdom contained in the Gita ( “Arjuna , perform your duties established in yoga, renouncing attachment to the fruits of action, and remaining even tempered in success and failure; evenness of temper is called yoga-verse 2.48 ” ).
    Your emphasis is to remain in the present, size up the reality and work towards the set goal with a happy state of mind, without bothering too much about the result.. It sounds a good and pragmatic advice. There may, however, be certain situations where this approach may not work with certain people for some of the following reasons :
    1. You have presumed that one will have a happy state of mind to work on the set goal but you have pulled the carpet from under his feet by suggesting that positive thinking is bad. In my view, positive thinking is bad if it is put on, a mere camouflage while feeling utterly despondent within. Positive thinking should not become a mask but should become a positive intent, which gives some zest, some happiness in undertaking the work. One needs motivation some time to work for a goal; positive thinking gives this motivation.
    2. You seem to have over reacted to the concept of positive thinking. In a situation when I feel shattered at the way things have turned out for me, I may either go into depression by negative thinking or may still realize, through positive thinking, that all is not still lost and i can pull through hopefully. Positive thinking can be good if it leads to positive action through awareness of the ground reality. It is bad if it is merely a wishful thinking, a kind of day dreaming for happy times ahead, remaining oblivious of the ground reality.

    Navin Sindhwani
    Aug 23, 2012 at 02:05 pm

    A great blog Mr. Uday Pai… have mastered the art of writing.

    Abhijeet Mane
    Aug 24, 2012 at 03:37 pm

    Initially reading such a long blog was a tiring thought, but once i got into it was enlightening and infotainment. I enjoyed all your examples (It was like amir khan in 3 idiots- ‘demo dena padta hai…’). It is a practical dose to all pramods. The significance of karma, the journey towards a goal, a happy state of mind was good to read. I really wonder how people like you think and then gather the thoughts and arrange them in a sensible pattern (of-course that’s what an author’s karma is). THANKS for the post.

    Venkateshwar Pandey
    Aug 24, 2012 at 07:48 pm

    This is just wonderful.The life is full of ups and downs, joys and woes. One has to accept the situation as it comes. The Geeta says one has to develop Sakshi Bhaaw( Attitude of a neutral witness) to observe the different phases of life.There is really nothing to add or comment about this blog. This is complete in itself,Mr Pai is doing a great job.

    Gopinath Kaushik
    Aug 24, 2012 at 09:23 pm

    Dear sir,
    A wonderful collection of thoughts very beautifully spread about.A positive attitude in life is always sought after by every one and we try to imbibe this in our children.Though just a thought does not move mountains, just as a sleeping lion will not get its food,it is essential that we do our work without any thought for the fruits.As rightly said we should try to be aware of our sorroundings,aware of oureselves and also every thing which we should be aware of.
    Thank You Jai Sri Krishna.


  13. Prasad Reddy says:

    Dear Uday

    Excellent point and lovely way of presenting.

    Like you said, there is too much of emphasis in “being positive” and at times, I see people getting lost with this thought of being positive and I am only understanding why it is so now.

  14. Vinay says:

    very good article Uday…very nice and logical thoughts…good way to start my day,,with logical or rational thinking..:)

  15. Gopal Shanbhag says:

    Respected Shri Uday,
    First of all I thank you for suggesting me to read an article written by and appearing in Speaking Tree.
    After finishing reading that I saw this blogsite. You seem to have tremendously learnt from experiences of life, carefully researched aspects of life and have been fairly successful at deciphering the Truth which is sought for by all the seekers.
    Most of us are bad learners. But the lessons of life repeat again and again till the time we learn from them.
    You are definitely a wealth of knowledge and there is a lot to be gained by all humanity. I wish all humanity the very best. Please continue your Karma!

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