LAZINESS AND PROCRASTINATION – GOOD OR BAD?

December 6, 2014
Meditation

Long ago a King declared an award for the laziest man in his kingdom. Few people came, but the palace officials said that the laziest man is in the village that was too lazy to come to receive the award. When king was about to declare this man as winner, the Minister came running saying that he has heard of another deserving fellow. “O, King, we have to go near …Read the Rest

“Kiss of Love”: Face Off Liberals and Conservatives

“Kiss of Love”: Face Off Liberals and Conservatives
December 6, 2014
Direct Approach

Recently, there was a protest against moral policing in the name of “Kiss of Love” in Marine Drive walkway at Kochi in Kerala. A few couples and dozens of youth activists kissed and hugged each other but a celebration of …Read the Rest

GRANDMA’S KONKANI LULLABY AND A TRAGIC GOAN STORY

GRANDMA’S KONKANI LULLABY AND A TRAGIC GOAN STORY
October 25, 2014
Brahminism

“Dear Crow, Have you been to Goa? Have you seen my beloved Grandpa there? What did he tell you? Did he tell about coming here for the next auspicious day?” This is the first stanza of a melodious lullaby in …Read the Rest

CLOSE ENCOUNTERS OF THE GHOST KIND (DOES GHOST EXIST?)

CLOSE ENCOUNTERS OF THE GHOST KIND (DOES GHOST EXIST?)
October 25, 2014
Faith & Rituals

My childhood was rich with all sorts of superstitions. The village air was filled with stories of ghosts and goblins – Yakshi (beautiful witch who seduce men with her beauty and drinking their blood), Brahmarakshas (very fierce demonic spirit), Kuttichathan …Read the Rest

CAN WE COPE WITH PAIN (MIND OR BODY) AND SUFFERINGS?

CAN WE COPE WITH PAIN (MIND OR BODY) AND SUFFERINGS?
October 25, 2014
Wellness

Once, Mother Teresa met a lady dying from cancer and in terrible pain. She tried to comfort the screaming sufferer: “You are suffering, that means Jesus is kissing you!” The lady couldn’t control her anger. She got furious and screamed …Read the Rest

POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE ENERGY : Your concepts of negative may be someone’s positive!

POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE ENERGY : Your concepts of negative may be someone’s positive!
September 22, 2014
Philosophy

Recently I visited an old friend. I have met a lady in his house. She is his relative who practices something known as “pranic healing”. She said she knows me and have read my articles. She talked to me about …Read the Rest

THE REAL LIFE STORY OF A WOMAN AFTER ‘LOVE MARRIAGE’

THE REAL LIFE STORY OF A WOMAN AFTER ‘LOVE MARRIAGE’
September 22, 2014
Hinduism

Few years ago I was travelling on a sleeper class train from Chennai. A lady wearing purdah sitting on the opposite seat was curiously watching me talking to my family over mobile phone. She was pale, weak and old. The …Read the Rest

MIND RELATED ISSUES: TENSION & STRESS BUSTING: CROSS-OVER YOUR MIND

MIND RELATED ISSUES: TENSION & STRESS BUSTING: CROSS-OVER YOUR MIND
September 22, 2014
Mind

Two months ago, a friend in Mumbai called me: “My cousin, Vijay (not real name) is suffering from some mental problems – facing extreme anxiety and depression and can’t lead a quality life anymore. He is an IIT product and …Read the Rest

THE UNKNOWN FACTS BEYOND GAZA AND ISRAEL: IS IT RELEVANT TO YOU?

THE UNKNOWN FACTS BEYOND GAZA AND ISRAEL: IS IT RELEVANT TO YOU?
September 22, 2014
Uncategorized

My good friend Nazir Ahmed has sent me an invitation to attend a meeting conducted to pray for innocent victims in Gaza during Israeli offensive against Hamas. There was a slogan engraved in that invitation: “Down with Israel, down with …Read the Rest

THE POWER HELD IN HANDS: ALL-IN-ONE SOLUTION FOR MOST OF YOUR PROBLEMS

THE POWER HELD IN HANDS: ALL-IN-ONE SOLUTION FOR MOST OF YOUR PROBLEMS
August 31, 2014
Mysticism

I used to get lot of letters and messages from readers like: “I am facing a terrible situation or in a shocking state of mind as I was diagnosed with….disease or facing big trouble or totally depressed and frustrated in …Read the Rest

YOUR BODY IS THE MEANS TO YOUR GOAL

YOUR BODY IS THE MEANS TO YOUR GOAL
August 31, 2014
Direct Approach

Recently a friend, 70-year old gentleman, has written to me: “In today’s generation, people have become pleasure seeking animal, living a very materialistic life. They can’t move beyond body level and give no importance to spirituality. Think for a moment …Read the Rest

ARE YOU SUPERSTITIOUS?

ARE YOU SUPERSTITIOUS?
July 20, 2014
Faith & Rituals

My friend in the West recently saw a photograph related to my daughter’s engagement ceremony and told me: “It is very funny to see a person like you perform ancient tribal rituals…Your religion is plagued by enormous superstitions, wrong customs, …Read the Rest

DO YOU BELIEVE IN CASTE?

DO YOU BELIEVE IN CASTE?
July 20, 2014
Faith & Rituals

A friend in Germany, Heidi Ryan, asked: “India still has the evil caste system. Do you believe in Caste, Uday?” “Yes, Indian caste system is definitely evil in current form…”I agreed with her. “But I saw few pics of you …Read the Rest

ARE YOU READY FOR A COMPETITION?

ARE YOU READY FOR A COMPETITION?
July 20, 2014
Direct Approach

“Today’s life is all about competition. Let’s make our children competitive to win in life. That’s the theory of nature too – survival of the fittest…” An eminent speaker said during a parent-teachers meet in my kids’ school few years …Read the Rest

WHY DOES GOD PUNISH GOOD PEOPLE AND REWARD THE BAD GUYS?

WHY DOES GOD PUNISH GOOD PEOPLE AND REWARD THE BAD GUYS?
June 10, 2014
God & I

A relative of mine recently told me: “Uday, my husband has cancer – that too diagnosed in a very advanced stage. He has been very good and pious. He has helped everybody, loved everybody and done nothing wrong in his …Read the Rest

WHEN KNOWLEDGE BECOMES USELESS AND SPIRITUALITY RIDICULOUS

WHEN KNOWLEDGE BECOMES USELESS AND SPIRITUALITY RIDICULOUS
June 10, 2014
Philosophy

My friend Muthuswamy told me: “I have read almost all religious and spiritual scriptures. I have also visited most of the famous temples in India. I have done most of the rituals, homas (homam or havan) and poojas (prayer ritual). …Read the Rest

RIP DOSA AND IDLY – WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF ARTIFICIAL FOOD

RIP DOSA AND IDLY – WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF ARTIFICIAL FOOD
May 15, 2014
Vegetarianism

Few months ago I wrote my experience in a vegetarian restaurant in Gandhi Nagar, Bangalore. For those who missed it, I am adding it here. I have ordered for a plain “dosa”. I couldn’t eat that dosa fried in oil, …Read the Rest

BOOMING HEALTHCARE AND MEDICAL TERRORISM IN INDIA

BOOMING HEALTHCARE AND MEDICAL TERRORISM IN INDIA
May 15, 2014
Science

This happened 20 years ago. I had developed a sudden pain on the left side of my stomach.When it had grown intolerable, we consulted a doctor. After initial checking he announced: “It is Appendicitis – a surgical emergency…Get admitted now, …Read the Rest

WHAT DOES GOD THINK OF DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE?

WHAT DOES GOD THINK OF DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE?
May 15, 2014
Relationship

When a young lady, my reader, contacted me to seek advice on her divorce and re-marriage, my instant reply was “no”. I don’t want to be a party in any break-up in this world… When she insisted to help her, …Read the Rest

STORY OF A MOTHER’S CURSE !

STORY OF A MOTHER’S CURSE !
April 23, 2014
Relationship

Recently, I have visited a friend’s father in a old age home. There I met a lady, around 74 years old, who reminded me of my mother. I introduced myself. We talked for few minutes. Then, without any provocation, she …Read the Rest

WE ARE LIVING IN THE EARTH AS IF WE HAD ANOTHER ONE TO GO TO!

WE ARE LIVING IN THE EARTH AS IF WE HAD ANOTHER ONE TO GO TO!
April 23, 2014
Relationship

I have met Hamsakkoya in Dubai. He bought an apartment for 99 years lease and settled there. He had faced hardships in childhood back in India long ago. “My parents and great parents were idiots, maintaining loss making agri farm-fields …Read the Rest

REAL EYES REALIZE REAL LIES

REAL EYES REALIZE REAL LIES
April 23, 2014
Wellness

“Why do humans have eyes? To see things around us. If you don’t see what you have and if you only see what you don’t have, why do you need your eyes?” – I asked this question to my friend’s …Read the Rest

MANTRAS FOR HEALTH, WEALTH AND PROSPERITY – REAL OR FAKE?

MANTRAS FOR HEALTH, WEALTH AND PROSPERITY – REAL OR FAKE?
April 23, 2014
Brahminism

Last year, while I was in USA, I received a WhatsApp message: “Uday sir, can you please advice me a mantra for health?” On further enquiry, I found that she was a regular reader of my website. “Proper food and …Read the Rest

WHAT’S YOUR LOVE STORY?

WHAT’S YOUR LOVE STORY?
March 20, 2014
Love

“You never share your love story. You keep mum whenever such question is posted by readers or friends…” a complaint from my young friend. I have very poor memory compared to a normal person. But there are some incidents in …Read the Rest

LIVING AND COPING WITH CHRONIC DISEASES

LIVING AND COPING WITH CHRONIC DISEASES
March 20, 2014
Direct Approach

My friend Ashok called me last week – he was very upset. He has been diagnosed with liver disease and diabetics. He was in a kind of shock and denial mode. A very ambitious and smart guy – suddenly realizing …Read the Rest

INSECURITY – WASTE OF TIME AND ABSENCE OF AWARENESS

INSECURITY – WASTE OF TIME AND ABSENCE OF AWARENESS
March 20, 2014
Wellness

Long ago, Roy Kurien, my college mate and close friend during PUC asked me: “How are you going to live without a secure government job?” He was concerned as I had not registered my name with the state government’s employment …Read the Rest

DON’T DO SOMETHING PERMANANTLY STUPID JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE TEMPORARILY UPSET

DON’T DO SOMETHING PERMANANTLY STUPID JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE TEMPORARILY UPSET
March 1, 2014
Direct Approach

Gracy Wilson, my media friend in UK, is a very hot tempered person. She has issues with the editor, management and most of the people she meets. She reacts to each and everything in life. She just can’t tolerate any …Read the Rest

ARE BLOOD RELATIONS BIOLOGICAL ACCIDENTS?

ARE BLOOD RELATIONS BIOLOGICAL ACCIDENTS?
March 1, 2014
Love

My friend Ramu has a nice family – lovely wife, three cute children – two girls and one boy. There ends his contact with blood relations. Our common friend Antony used to tell me: “Ramu will face problems later when …Read the Rest

A DEPRESSED GIRL and THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT

A DEPRESSED GIRL and THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT
February 15, 2014
Wellness

Recently I met Rajani (not real name) during a wedding ceremony. She said she was a regular reader of my website. We talked for some time. She is doing her post-research (after PhD). Her husband is a highly paid medical …Read the Rest

THE PRESCRIPTION FOR HAPPINESS AND A DONKEY

THE PRESCRIPTION FOR HAPPINESS AND A DONKEY
February 15, 2014
Philosophy

A donkey was stubborn. So an enterprising farmer rigged up a stick with a carrot on a string that would dangle in front of the donkey, a few inches from his nose. The donkey could never get close enough to …Read the Rest

CONTROLLING THE MIND, WHAT A FUNNY IDEA SIRJEE?

CONTROLLING THE MIND, WHAT A FUNNY IDEA SIRJEE?
February 15, 2014
Meditation

Recently I had an opportunity to interact with a person (can’t mention his name) who is a self-acclaimed spiritual person. He had come to meet me to introduce a new guru who is visiting our city. He talked to me …Read the Rest

CLOSE ENCOUNTER WITH A SENIOR GRADE DRUNKARD

CLOSE ENCOUNTER WITH A SENIOR GRADE DRUNKARD
February 15, 2014
Wellness

Three years ago, I happened to visit Gopalan Nair’s family. They were rich landlords in the past. Gopalan was an alcoholic. He had ruined all his family assets. His wife complained about him: “He is not worried about his children, …Read the Rest

PROBLEMS ARE MANDATORY; WORRYING IS OPTIONAL

PROBLEMS ARE MANDATORY; WORRYING IS OPTIONAL
January 16, 2014
Wellness

A man was standing near a beautiful beach. He wanted to take bath in the ocean – a calm ocean without waves, to be precise. So he waited for the waves to stop so as to take bath. Will he …Read the Rest

A SIMPLE BUT COMPLICATED MARRIAGE PROPOSAL

A SIMPLE BUT COMPLICATED MARRIAGE PROPOSAL
January 16, 2014
Relationship

Last week, Narayan (not real name), my school-mate, contacted me. We belong to the same village and community. He has only one daughter. He wants to get her married in a traditional Bharat (Indian) way – An arranged marriage. He …Read the Rest

WHY CAN’T I BELIEVE IN A CREATOR AS GOD?

WHY CAN’T I BELIEVE IN A CREATOR AS GOD?
January 5, 2014
God & I

Recently two gentlemen with great “good news” came to my residence as part of their religious conversion drive. They have briefed me about the Semitic moral values, divine blessings for me and informed me about the only savior in the …Read the Rest

YOU ARE NOT AWARE ABOUT DANGEROUS CHAOS THAT YOU ARE IN

YOU ARE NOT AWARE ABOUT DANGEROUS CHAOS THAT YOU ARE IN
January 5, 2014
Between You and Me

Reflect on these five facts 1. The width of USB port of your computer is 12 mm (A-plug) 2. At the age of 23, a doctor checked my blood pressure and said the normal is 80/120. After 20 years, the …Read the Rest

Be like a Bee, a Honey Bee

Be like a Bee, a Honey Bee
December 17, 2013
Direct Approach

WE USED TO BE ‘CITIZENS’. NOW WE ARE ‘CONSUMERS': In ancient stories (especially in myths, puranas and fairy tales) we read lot about “Asareeri” (divine or celestial voice). Its literal meaning is some sound or human voice without a physical …Read the Rest

Positive thinking: A pseudo-scientific con!

Positive thinking: A pseudo-scientific con!
December 17, 2013
Wellness

CAUTION: POSITIVE THINKING MAY BE HARMFUL TO YOU : Promod is an MLM (multi-level marketing) business man. He also runs a business of personality development. He told me: “Positive thinking has miraculous powers. Positive thinkers are successful in life. It …Read the Rest

ANCIENT HINDU TEMPLES – SOME INCREDIBLE FACTS

ANCIENT HINDU TEMPLES – SOME INCREDIBLE FACTS
December 17, 2013
Hinduism

My American friend, Ved Bell, who is a follower of Mata Amrutanandamayi, asked me why is it that some Hindu temples didn’t allow him to go in. He has married to a Nepali Hindu woman. They follow Hinduism. Now that …Read the Rest

PARENTING, PAMPERING AND A CRUEL FATHER

PARENTING, PAMPERING AND A CRUEL FATHER
December 9, 2013
Between You and Me

Few months ago, my distant relative and retired bank manager asked me: “Uday, I have a serious query – I saw your bank account of last 12 years. The only income you had is your salary that had been remitted …Read the Rest

FROM FRUSTRATION TO FASCINATION

FROM FRUSTRATION TO FASCINATION
November 18, 2013
Uncategorized

“Dear Uday, I have been reading all your articles in http://udaypai.in/. I am living in US for the last 40 years. I do meditation, prayers, rituals, read all puranas etc. I am very spiritual and strict vegetarian. Still I am …Read the Rest

CAN ANYBODY PREDICT YOUR FUTURE?

CAN ANYBODY PREDICT YOUR FUTURE?
November 18, 2013
Wellness

25 years ago, my friend Subrahmanian invited me for lunch during some ongoing ‘parihara kriyas’ (remedial rituals) at his home. Somebody had predicted that his father would die at the age of 50. I am seeing his parents for the …Read the Rest

THE DRESS CODE OF SPIRITUALITY

THE DRESS CODE OF SPIRITUALITY
November 18, 2013
Direct Approach

While I was doing my final year B.Sc in 1982, I got an invitation to attend a literary camp conducted by Kerala-based Malayala Manorama Newspaper (later I was a columnist in it). As I had been selected as best short …Read the Rest

DESTINY OR FREE WILL?

DESTINY OR FREE WILL?
September 16, 2013
Mysticism

Vinod Sharma, one of my readers, got my phone number and called me last week: “Sir, is there destiny? Some people say there is no destiny, but free will – I am totally confused…” He has lost his elder brother …Read the Rest

Easy step to HAPPINESS: Kick-out the word “ENJOY”

Easy step to HAPPINESS: Kick-out the word “ENJOY”
September 16, 2013
Wellness

Aseena (not real name), our family friend, is working as a Nurse in UK. She always ends her phone call with these words: “Have fun, Enjoy!”. One day Aseena was talking to my daughter. I heard my daughter saying: “My …Read the Rest

Is Rebirth for REAL?

Is Rebirth for REAL?
August 20, 2013
Mysticism

One night in 1986 April, I was sitting in the New Delhi railway station. I didn’t get a reservation, so I had to wait for next day morning train. I was on the way back after a long trip from …Read the Rest

Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?

Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?
July 24, 2013
Philosophy

YOU DON’T EAT A LION DOESN’T MEAN LION WON’T EAT YOU! One of my friends is working in a state-government’s administrative department. She is very honest, dedicated and hardworking. She cannot stand any manipulation or corruption. Her fellow workers in …Read the Rest

Defying Death – The life of a cancer patient

Defying Death – The life of a cancer patient
July 15, 2013
Mysticism

Mohammed Khalid is no more now. He was working in the advertisement industry. During my initial years of struggle in profession, he was a moral support. He considered me as a friend, though he was 20 years older than me. …Read the Rest

Do you feel INSECURE?

Do you feel INSECURE?
March 28, 2013
Between You and Me

“Did you never feel insecurity or fear of being unsuccessful? From the post, it appears that you went by your gut feeling to do what you loved. How did you overcome the feeling of insecurity?” asked a gentleman Satish K …Read the Rest

True Story of A Pauper Billionaire

True Story of A Pauper Billionaire
March 5, 2013
Between You and Me

“Good morning Sir…My name is Ann Mary. I would like to get an appointment with you…”her voice was little shaky and sounded anxious. She said she was a journalist intern. This was her first project. Her professor was my classmate …Read the Rest

Love, Sex and Marriage – Indian Style !

Love, Sex and Marriage – Indian Style !
February 25, 2013
Love

Venkateswara Bhat (Venky) was my school mate. He is a priest in a Hindu temple now. Few years ago, he came to see me while I was working in Bangalore. He was on the way to Jagannath Puri. I insisted …Read the Rest

18 February – 5115 years after Krishna’s bodily departure

18 February – 5115 years after Krishna’s bodily departure
February 11, 2013
God & I

“Don’t be scared or sorry as these are the ways of destiny…”, this was the last words of Krishna as told to Jara, a hunter mistook former’s feet to be a deer and accidentally shot him with the arrow. For, …Read the Rest

Interview with Krishna

Interview with Krishna
September 8, 2012
God & I

I wanted to reach Krishna’s abode in time. The time allotted for interview was the last yaama of the night (That is brahmamuhurtha or IST 4 AM) The moment I saw Krishna’s radiant face, I experienced utter bliss. Wow! An …Read the Rest

Bye-bye Positive Thinking

Bye-bye Positive Thinking
August 21, 2012
Wellness

It was a Sunday afternoon. I had my lunch and was watching television at my home. Suddenly, I heard someone ringing my door-bell. I opened the door. A Youngman in early 30s, wearing full-sleeves, tie and other paraphernalia. “Good afternoon …Read the Rest

Do You Believe in GOD?

Do You Believe in GOD?
August 8, 2012
God & I

In 2008 April, I was in Sunnyvale, CA to attend a 3-days seminar. I have met a public relations manager of a technology firm. She was an Indian from Karnataka. Since I was the only Indian in the group, she …Read the Rest

Are You ENLIGHTENED?

Are You ENLIGHTENED?
August 8, 2012
Meditation

“Have you ever heard about enlightenment?” he asked while running his fingers through his long beard. “I am already enlightened” I cracked a joke with serious face. “What?” his shock was evident from his croaked voice. So far he had …Read the Rest

Chat with an ex-film star

Chat with an ex-film star
August 8, 2012
Love

Chat with an ex-film star: Fall from the sky! Life, that is Some of you may have spent time in Singapore Changi Airport. All the three terminals are worth seeing experience. I have spent lot of hours in my life …Read the Rest

Why suicide rate is highest among young Indians ?

Why suicide rate is highest among young Indians ?
August 8, 2012
Science

An alarming report on increasing suicides in India is calling for urgent intervention and rethinking of our system. What’s wrong with Indians? Our country had shown the world the path to eternal happiness. And, now, Indians are an unhappy lot!…If …Read the Rest

My dear hackers! An appeal by Dr.Udaylal Pai

My dear hackers! An appeal by Dr.Udaylal Pai
May 19, 2012
Direct Approach

His DNA can be traced back to man-eaters or invaders who raped and killed innocents. So, it is not his mistake. He is following his culture, his dharma. And I am following mine. So, I will up the site again and if he wants to hack and destory it again, let him do it. With maliciously corrupt DNA, a hacker cannot think anything else. He is simply doing his dharma. For the pig, the human shit is most tastiest food. You can’t change its mind-set.

Was there a caste system in Hinduism (Sanathan Dharma)? NO!!

Was there a caste system in Hinduism (Sanathan Dharma)? NO!!
January 17, 2011
Faith & Rituals

There is a popular word – “Islamic terrorism”. Does it mean terrorism is an exclusive business of Islam? No. There are terrorists among Muslims. That doesn’t make all Islamic followers terrorists. Similar misconception can be seen in Hinduism when it …Read the Rest

Why am I NOT a SINNER?

Why am I NOT a SINNER?
June 26, 2010
Hinduism

Sanatan Dharma or Hinduism is not a prescriptive religion. It doesn’t give you a list of Do’s and Don’ts. It gives a lot of freedom of thought to the extent that a person who said there is no God is …Read the Rest

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